Never say “Would Have, Should Have, Could Have”

Written by Kerry Carter.

I started my yoga practice 9 years ago after some health problems prevented me from lifting weights. What a change from the gym! I attended my first beginner Vinyasa class at a local neighborhood boutique yoga studio. I struggled with the poses and finished in a pool of sweat and exhaustion.  A beginner class? I was challenged and hooked immediately. The studio brought a new balance of body, mind, and breath I had never felt. Unfortunately, the studio went out of business 6 months into my practice.

I wandered from studio to studio around the city of Austin, TX. I experienced total 105 degree baking exhausting yoga to serene meditation studios but I was not able to find the “Zen”, that total “balance” that was created by the atmosphere of that little boutique studio.

A year later I found a tiny ad in the back of Yoga Journal for Yoga Retreats in Yosemite featuring hiking, camping and yoga. All of my favorite activities. This was my introduction to Balanced Rock.

I arrived at the campsite at McGee Creek on the Eastern side of the Sierras near Yosemite. I received a warm welcome by the staff and other attendees. The next three days were a wonderful experience of great food, genuine people, and the most breathtaking scenery for a yoga practice I have ever experienced.

The last day of our retreat was a hike to a glacier lake so clear we could see to the bottom and witness the fish jumping in the lake. After a brisk swim, I spent some time alone meditating on a rock and reflecting on this trip for what was next in my life. On the plane ride home I had the thought of opening my own yoga studio. Many reasons came to light why I could not do this, why I should not do it, but it was clear to me I had to build my own studio in order to get that “balance” back in my life.

I contacted the ex-owner of that first studio I attended and explained my vision. She had the yoga experience and I had the business model. After several failed attempts to get funding I took a big bite out of my savings to start the business. We handpicked and interviewed 10 great instructors that were aligned with the vision and 9 months later we opened FlowYoga in the same, now booming community with 32 classes heated, non-heated, and even kids’ yoga.

With little competition we were proud. We built it and so, they would come right? (so wrong!) We had to send teachers home on many occasions and I had to pour more money that I ever excepted in to keep it open.  What was wrong? I was ready to throw in the towel.

After some outside consultation and coaching we discovered we needed a strategic marketing plan. We put the plan in place, including a strong social media campaign, community campaigning, running creative new member specials and we started to fill classes! The rest was word of mouth. The testimonials and feedback from students was evidence the vision had become a reality.

After being open for 5 years my business partner had decided to move to Colorado and I decided, although bittersweet, it was time to let the studio change hands. I sold it last year however, the studio and that vision is still thriving today and growing steadily.

The walk away is to never do a “would have, could have, should have.” The experience built strong confidence, we gave something beautiful to the community, and well, life is just too short!


Kerry Carter, BBA, MBA, has over 25 years of management experience in the fields of Information Technology consulting. He was the founder and Co-Owner of Flowyoga, a Vinyasa yoga studio located in Austin Texas.

Kerry has held management and leadership positions with IBM, Dell, and Deloitte Consulting. His work is primarily in sales to help his clients including nonprofit organizations transform their business systems to operate more efficiently and cost effectively.

Kerry is married to Brenda. Between them they have four grown children and three grandchildren. Kerry enjoys traveling, is an avid yogi and also spends a lot of his off-time in the mountains hiking, camping, and snow skiing! Kerry has attended five retreats with Balanced Rock over the last 6 years which has led to his passion to see the growth and preservation of this wonderful organization.

He also has interests in the preservation of the planet from the environmental effects of global climate change and current on-going environmental sustainability efforts.


Reflections on Water

We are honored and grateful to share a recent submission from one of the incredible healers who is currently a student of Balanced Rock’s WildYoga Teacher Training Program

Artist, herbalist, and explorer Jiling teaches herbal, nature connection, yoga, dance, and other classes around the USA, Taiwan, and China. She’s currently studying Chinese medicine (acupuncture and herbs) at Alhambra Medical University in Los Angeles, completing her 500 hour yoga teacher training through Balanced Rock’s WildYoga Program, and bridging relationships between plants and people through education, clinical work, and creative engagement. You can also read more on Jiling’s personal blog


How is the Water element a guiding principle in your life?

In Chinese medicine, Water is the element of the north, and governs the Kidneys and Bladder. North is a place of the great unknown, that liminal space between birthing and dying, where the Universe spirals back into itself, and spirals back out, creating in mysterious yet powerful ways. My experiences with water buoy me through difficult times in my life. I remember lying on rocks in full sunlight in the middle of river after precious river, feeling simultaneous freedom and exhilaration as I plunge my body into the cold waters of this Earth. I feel the wild power of the great pulsing ocean that I biked alongside for hundreds of miles this summer and slept next to each night, and the hot springs that heated and sanctified all of my cells in the rumbling hot springs of two different continents. I feel the pulsation of rage and sorrow from marching next to then tending the wounds of Water Protectors at Standing Rock last year, and the remaining fires from that water protecting journey, and how they light me up from within. Mni wiconi. Water is life.

Where/how do you experience connection to Water and where/how might you deepen this connection?

My favorite places to live and be are all alongside water. Water is life! Water nourishes our plants, for our food. Water cleanses my body and spirit. Water provides the source for my hydration, tea, and all nourishment. Water composes 60% of my body mass. Water is delightful. I went camping every week this month, twice alongside the San Gabriel River, the primary river that feeds my local watershed of the San Gabriel Mountains. I delight in the river’s song, lulling me to a deep sleep with powerful dreams, under the glistening stars and sliver of moonlight, water-fed trees dancing overhead. Every morning, I wake to splash my face with water, then drink hot tea with hand-picked herbs infused in boiled water. I water my plant babies as I brush my hair before asana practice, kneeling to watch the water sink into the soil, loving each millimeter of growth, sometimes a whole centimeter, that springs up each day, the plants imbibing the water, sun’s rays, and soil’s minerals. I say a prayer of gratitude to every river I come to, with reverence.

I deepen my connection with Water through activism: through sharing tea fed by stories of plants, place, and connection, of where our waters come from, and how to be more responsible in our water use, here in this arid landscape of Los Angeles I call home. I deepen each time I make botanical preparations, each time I go camping, and each time I expose a new heart to the beauties of our local natural environment.

What does the Water element have to do with yoga, and how might you share that with your students? 

I enjoy the flowing nature of vinyasa, of dancing through asanas with fluid sequencing informed and inspired by water, and the free flowing lymph and blood through our bodies. Asana moves qi, which moves blood, awakening and enlivening the entire body, mind, spirit, and being. As I sequence my classes, I note where we flow in and out of movement, and where we hold, then release. Water, being the yin nourishing principle of our lives and bodies, is present in the undercurrent of our entire practice, especially as we flow between asanas. I take us out under the rain on a bridge, mouths open and smiling, eyes closed, pores cleansing. I share ancient stories and songs that inspires tears. Water, the oldest and most powerful medicine-making menstruum, the ancient building block of our sacred special planet, flows thusly through our bodies and practices, and onwards back into the substratum of the Universe, and back into the Earth.

One of Jiling’s favorite water photos from a special river spot in New Mexico.




Intentions for the New Year

From Heather Sullivan

Winter Solstice marks the new year for me.  It is a time to go inward and reflect as we have the most amount of dark hours.  It is a time of rest and reflection.

This year I am practicing a different type of New Year’s intention: 

Settling into Enoughness.

Rather than try and make changes or work at a new resolution in my life, I am taking inventory of what I already have and do.   

The Practice (5 minutes per day for a week)

Find a quiet spot. Light a candle and set a 5-minute timer.  Close your eyes.

  • Contemplate on how you feel you are already enough in this world.
  • Contemplate on what material possessions you have enough of.
  • Contemplate on what you have already in abundance that you can give to the world.
Write these thoughts in a journal or on a piece of paper.
Try this practice for one week before setting any new intentions or resolutions to feel into your well for abundance and to bring light and insight into how much you already have and how much you already are.
Explore if you find any sense of inner peace or contentment when feeling like there is and you are enough.
From all of us at Balanced Rock we wish you an abundant, joyful, and peaceful New Year!

Mountain High

Thanks to Anna Stump for submitting her story about the Custom Journey she created with Balanced Rock for herself and six friends this summer. This is the perfect time of year to reach out to us and begin planning your Custom Adventure for next season! We hope you enjoy this tale of adventure and nourishment. For the full version please visit her blog


About a year ago I contacted Balanced Rock, a Yosemite-based non-profit, and asked if they would be willing to do a custom journey for a small group of friends.  They immediately said yes and the planning began.  I loved their willingness to be receptive to what I had envisioned for the trip: A time to connect with other mamas in purposeful ways, a time to be in the wild without any agenda, a time to practice yoga without mats or fancy attire, a time to begin a new tradition that I could soon enter our daughters into, and a time to be introspective.

On Yosemite’s 127th Birthday weekend, seven women walked in the high country guided by one wilderness expert and their hearts. We were driven by a want for a deeper connection to ourselves, one another and nature.  We didn’t have any idea how much work it would be and how much we would grow, individually and together.

When we arrived at what we lovingly called, “Shangri La”, our base camp, we were surrounded by vistas that seemed surreal.  We walked together and alone, savoring the time and space to notice details everywhere, like the way the lakes that surrounded us looked as the mountain wind picked up during sunset; glossy with riveting patterns and crisp with alpine melt.   We noticed how contented we felt after a healthy and simple meal, like grits which we all helped prepare and put away, down to licking our bowls clean!  And we soaked in the time to converse with one another about topics that mattered deeply to us.

Shangri La


We listened to Stellar’s Jays, anxiously anticipated Pika as they would dart across rocks and noticed even our eyelashes in our shadows through the afternoon hours.  We checked in with one another often, offering support, care and humor.

We became a tribe. 

Mountain Mama Tribe


We practiced “Wild Yoga” and meditation overlooking the majestic Autumn-colored valley.  Finding our resting pose on granite, laced with quartz crystal, millions of atoms of energy beneath us.

We laughed until our faces hurt, sharing stories of our triumphant day as we marveled at the sunset sweeping over the Valley of Light.



We let handfuls of sacred Public Land soil soak into our grasps as we learned to anchor tent knots in preparation for dark clouds.  We felt the richness of this National Park land under our feet and without hesitation, let it anchor us up steep and narrow trails.

And when we came to Yosemite’s very center summiting Mt. Hoffman together, we found not only the valley’s strength of heart: We found our own.

Summiting Mt. Hoffmann


Maybe, in our fast-paced world, we have to be more purposeful of slowing down and getting off the grid.  Maybe, we have to remember that keeping one another safe and cared for is community work.  Maybe, we have to let go of all connections to all sources of media, and just find the right connection within ourselves and the people who surround us.  Maybe, we need reminders of just how precious our land and environment is, and preserving it can be a daily effort as we go on with our day-to-day lives.  Maybe, we have work to do, to show our daughters that women have always encircled one another with care and support, and their truest friends in life will do the same for them.  Maybe, we have to spend time away from everything we know, to find potential within ourselves we never knew existed.  Maybe, just maybe, that “Mountain High” can be found within our very homes.

The adventure was much more than backpacking and yoga for all of us on the trip.  It rooted us.  It elevated our strength and confidence and allowed us each to feel so much more connected to what matters in our lives.

“Balanced Rock” is a perfect name for the organization, for it is exactly how each of us felt leaving.  Balanced Rock believes in, the Hero’s/Heroine’s Call.  It encompasses the idea that someone hears the call to adventure, they go and answer the call.  When they return home, they share of their experiences and learning.  All I can think about since returning home, is how excited each of us women have been to share with our daughters and families.   The Hero’s/Heroine’s Call is already being placed in our daughters’ hands for we want them too, to feel Mountain High.

Text and photos submitted by Anna Stump. Edited by Paula Wild. 


Reflecting on the Women of Color Retreat

This inspiring heart-felt piece is written by Diana Zuniga who attended the 2016 Balanced Rock Women of Color Wilderness Retreat. We appreciate Diana’s contribution very much. Any political views expressed here are Diana’s personal views and don’t represent Balanced Rock’s a-political stance as a non-profit. We haven’t edited her submission at all and hope you enjoy reading it! All photos were provided by Diana.


Now in this time when some of us are in a constant state of fear because of the interactions we see on the street and the hate words thrown around by the federal administration, I knew it was time to remember my first sola trip. A journey with a group of incredible people at the Women of Color Backpacking Retreat through the spaces of Yosemite National Park and solo down the California landscape to visit Keough Hot Springs, the former internment camp that held Japanese people at Manzanar National Historic Site, and Santa Barbara. It was my 29th year and I knew I needed to be away and alone as much as possible. I needed to be close to nature for an extended amount of time with people that looked like me and with souls that had a connection to femme energy.

I googled “women of color retreat” and  found the Balanced Rock program that prioritized teaching women of color about the outdoors and was led by two extraordinary women, Chelsea Griffie and Miho Aida. I was ecstatic and luckily was able to attend after being on the waiting list and being notified that two people canceled. It was meant to be!

I remember sensing fear again as I got ready to take this trip alone and drive through California as a woman of color in a time where Trump was already spitting his slander. I saw signs on several different farms in the central valley saying “Another Farmer for Trump”, one of which had strong graffiti art across it. I sensed the fear driving my little Prius up the Yosemite mountain with a gut full of butterflies since I am afraid of heights, and some uneasiness as I drove through nature to get to my destination to meet my group. I’m glad that I moved through that fear which led me to meet people from Canada, New York, Texas, and to reconnect with a friend that had been in my organizing circle. I met people of color confronting the status quo by inserting themselves in the corporate world, in theater, in fashion, and in art. I was a part of discussions confronting our experiences with race, gender and being female identified in the communities we were a part of. I’m also glad I moved through that fear and allowed my body to experience what I did up in those mountains and creeks for four days.

Here is some of my reflection the day after I left Yosemite:

I just finished my Yosemite journey and I’m now in a little tent built for two at the Keough Hot Springs. I feel so good being here and so fulfilled. I know I have to reflect on this experience. A thing that fed my soul, my body that had been asleep for a while, and my mind to know that I can really do anything. I can do anything I want.

As I lay here done, I just feel so complete. So complete I want to cry. So many times I moved through mother nature masked in concrete and loved it.

But these last four days I saw mother nature in her rawest form. I moved like her — completely vulnerable. I remembered how to rely on skills, my brain and my body’s energy while constantly leaning on the internal thought, “I have to do this”, and survival on my mind.

The moments when my legs were so sore I thought I couldn’t take another step upwards. When my breath was so dry I didn’t think I could swallow. When my arms were so tight I had to stretch them like I was flying to move my trekking poles again. And even now as I lie here and place my legs down I can feel the pain.

I was so in my body. In a way that I don’t think I’ve been before. Maybe this is the next phase of my process. Really being in my body. The last phase felt like a restoration of my faith which is evolving. My mind has always been ahead of me and I’m getting to a place where emotions are easier to share. But my body has always been hard to read. These four days I listened to my body. I appreciated it in every way possible and had no idea how I could complete this challenge without it. I’m so grateful for her.

The journey of Balanced Rock was healing for me. It brought me back to my body. It made me realize just how strong my body and mind are. Just how connected I am to the earth, to the stars, to the moon — to mother nature, to pacha mama.

I will continue loving my body for all the sustenance it gives me, for always being there, for taking anything that comes its way, and for being so damn beautiful. I will heal the wounds that my body has absorbed. I will do this so that I can continue to walk strong, so that I can ease the tension in my back and shoulders, so that I can breathe better and love better. All for me from me.

I have been trying to carry this reflection with me everyday as we live in a world that can place uncertainty and fear into the lives of female identified women of color. Fear of being female identified because of our beautiful bodies, fear of the color of our skin inciting unwarranted insults, fear of policies limiting our movement to and from other countries, fear of the restrictions our bodies might undergo, fear for our families and friends that can be impacted by continued racism and oppression — I invite us to move through that fear by remembering our voices, protecting our spaces, and entering closer to the natural world that will always welcome, protect, and hold us. Just look at how the National Park’s are using Twitter to defy Trump.

Now is the time for people to enter into mother nature and  relearn how to survive living with her. I invite all my people of color to take a look at Balanced Rock’s programs and to choose to be a part of one along their life’s journey.

We Are What We Eat

Our mission at Balanced Rock is to inspire health and wellbeing through a deep connection to nature and spirit. What better way to achieve this in an evolving and ongoing way than through the food we eat! We need food to survive and we can create a relationship with food that helps us to thrive. Below I share some ideas to inspire your connection to the very things that literally make you who you are.

Lauren Glikin from Raw Roots Farm with her bountiful produce.

All of these points can be employed simply by signing up for a local CSA. CSA stands for Community Supported Agriculture. In this relationship the consumer pays a local farmer money up front to produce crops that are harvested and directly delivered to the consumer over the course of the season. Read on for some ideas about new and exciting ways you might relate to the food you eat!


We support our local farmers no matter what hardships may come. By investing money before receiving food we are making a commitment to another person’s dream and livelihood. Regardless of the weather, crop failure or pest problem the farmer is encouraged and empowered, always knowing that a large community of people is supporting them.

Eat Locally

The positive effects and joy of receiving food that is produced locally are quadrupled when we consider the fossil fuel savings that we are enacting by reducing the transport of food over long distances. The food is as fresh as one could hope for; it never sits in a warehouse and is often harvested the day before it is delivered to us. This insures that we are eating food at the height of its capacity for nourishment. Oxidation has not set in and we receive more nutrients and minerals when we eat locally grown foods.

Allow Rather Than Control

I have control issues. Do you? I want everything to be just so. Yet when I receive my weekly food share I have no control over what will arrive. I can only control what I do with the bountiful gift. Does that sound familiar? It should, because that is life. We can only do the best we can with what we are given. My CSA membership helps me practice this yogic truth regularly.

One Less Decision

Adults make approximately 35,000 decisions everyday. Each of these requires mental and emotional energy. Have you ever found yourself standing in a supermarket overwhelmed by the variety presented to you? Problem solved with CSA! The share arrives and you have one less decision to make, and a whole bunch of yummy beautiful produce to consume.

Easting Seasonally

Ayurveda (yoga’s sister science) suggests that we eat with the seasons in order to align our rhythms with the natural rhythms of the earth. That is why soups are so yummy in winter (they are warm and moist) and salads delight in summer (they are cool and crisp). Nature has a tremendous intelligence in that summer crops include lettuce, cucumbers and tomatoes: juicy foods that replenish a body dehydrated by increased sun and heat. In the same way nature offers us root vegetables in the winter to nourish our capacity to go deep into the darkness of the season and discover the fertility there. We are a part of nature, yet our culture and society attempts to convince us we are above, or better than nature. Much of our suffering can be attributed to this disconnect, and by eating with the seasons we have one more opportunity to reconnect with who we truly are.

Creative Juice

Do you ever get into a rut where you buy and prepare the same things over and over again? I guarantee this will cease if you enroll in a CSA. Every week there is a different variety of produce and with the help of the internet we can explore new and interesting ways to prepare it. Spice up your life on a daily basis through the food you prepare and eat.


We receive different food every week. This keeps us healthy by providing a balanced diet without the effort of researching every little thing. As Michael Pollan states in the beginning of his book “In Defense of Food”: Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants. The guesswork is taken out of dieting and we are left to delight in the culinary creations that are possible with a constant flow of fresh local produce.

Digesting It All

As human beings we not only digest our food, we also digest our experiences. In a fast-paced world we don’t often take the time to truly nourish our nervous system by pausing long enough the “smell the roses”. Making a commitment to cooking and more slowly eating your food will support the nervous system in regulating itself so that you can be more connected to your body, your environment, your relationships, and your life as a whole!

Gratitude On The Ground

What do you do once the food is on the table, everyone is present and it is time to eat? I strongly suggest you try taking a moment to pause and verbally express gratitude before digging in. Keep it simple. Whatever you feel grateful for, speak it. I have found that with a CSA it is even easier because instead of generally saying I am grateful for the people and land that produced this food I can picture the actual human beings who worked so hard to get it to my table. Gratitude is a powerful practice, made even more potent when we concretize it in time and space.

If you reside in the Mariposa/Yosemite community…

We can recommend Raw Roots Farm and Mountain Meadow Farms as wonderful choices for CSA membership. We use their products as often as possible on our courses striving to serve our participants the very best nourishment under the sun. Invest in your community, invest in your health, invest in yourself. The return is magic!

Inspired by our local bounty, I have begun offering a yoga class right before the Mariposa Farmers Market, just a 2 minute walk away. Come join me on Wednesdays May-Nov 4:00-5:15pm for Fresh Local Yoga at Studio M

Bon Appetit!

Paula Wild



Go For Your Dreams

Check out one of Balanced Rock’s founders, Eliza Kerr on a Mother-Daughter Climb of El Capitan’s Zodiac route!

Eliza and Calliope (age 13) enjoying a selfie over one thousand feet off the ground.

Eliza, Calliope, and friend Miranda Oakley spent three days and nights climbing this iconic piece of granite. Experiencing all sorts of weather, physical and mental challenges these women are inspirations to us all. Their achievement encourages us to go for our dreams!

Tips to success shared by Eliza and Calliope:
1. Work hard and prepare as best as possible
2. Seek support from friends and mentors
3. Surrender! Have faith and trust that it will all work out the way it’s meant to be 🙂

Balanced Rock was once a dream and is now a thriving non-profit organization. Perhaps you dream of connecting with yourself and others in the wilderness, pushing new frontiers of your mental, physical, and/or emotional stamina? Or maybe you dream of becoming a yoga instructor and serving your community? If so join us for a course this year and manifest your dreams into reality!

Self Care for Accepting Differences: One Woman’s Current Journey

“Accepting differences” may not seem like a typical “self care” topic. But I struggle with “accepting differences” and I am certain I am not the only one.

In the past few weeks, I have been considering what the key elements are for me in “accepting differences” and they seem to be experience, education and expectations. Below is a description of my current journey as I examine how to address this aspect of my self-care.

When I hold a particular opinion, value or belief that differs from someone else, I often feel a strong emotional reaction when I see or hear their perspectives. Of course, I feel like they are wrong, even if I do not say anything. But that tension or anxiety I feel in my body is an indication from my inner guidance system that I am not in a mode of “accepting differences”… at least that is my belief. It is telling me to allow them to have their perspectives without me needing to get emotionally wrapped up in their opinions. Part of the struggle is determining when “self care” also includes speaking up or taking action, because just “accepting differences” does not feel like the right thing for me to do.

Water analogies speak to my soul and I heard this one somewhere along my path. I know I am paying attention to my inner guidance system when any thought or action feels like I am floating downstream. When I am not struggling against the current, I have my feet up and am relaxed letting life unfold effortlessly. When I feel like I am swimming upstream, against the current, I am working hard and wearing myself out. Then I am usually not listening to my inner guidance system and instead trying to control an outcome or situation.

If I decide to take an action or speak up, even if this varies from someone else’s opinion or perspective, it needs to feel right…as if I am floating downstream.

As I write this blog, it is January 2017. Donald Trump has been sworn into office as the nation’s 45th President. The divisions within the country seem to be wide chasms of fear of the unknown for our future.

I have very different values and opinions from most of my family members in the middle of the country. During the brief time we spend together, we choose not to get into big debates over politics or religion, but prefer to focus on our love for each other. However, I still struggle with accepting their differences…and they probably struggle accepting mine, as well.

Recently I read Harper Lee’s “Go Set a Watchman”, the sequel to her award winning novel, “To Kill a Mockingbird”. I found this book riveting though it was a sad reminder to me of the struggles and inequities that continue to plague African American people, in particular, but many races and nationalities, as well. As I see it, that is the biggest difference between most of my Midwest family members and me. I have lived in the San Francisco Bay Area now for over half of my life and that experience has profoundly impacted my perspective. I have seen racism and personally experienced sexism. I KNOW it exists AND I know that as a white woman, I do not experience the “isms” very much. Which is also why I was in total shock when Donald Trump was elected President. The “isms” have not changed that much in this country since Harper Lee’s second novel, which was set in the late 1950’s. Clearly this is not nearly as surprising to the African American community.

What if I had stayed in the Midwest and/or had not worked in social services? How would my view of the United States and world politics be different than it is today? Would I hold more similar perspectives as my other family members do? Just how much has the experience of living in the Bay Area for over half of my life influenced me?

As I write this blog, I am flying back from my first trip to Africa. I had an amazing two weeks in Tanzania exploring the Serengeti on a safari followed by a visit to the spice island of Zanzibar. The most impactful days for me were when we visited a traditional Maasai village in Nayoibi, which is in the Ngorongoro Conservation Area.

Our guide was born and raised in that village. He had the benefit of a sponsor which allowed him to get a secondary and university education. He now lives in the States, but communicates weekly with his family. He visits each year to assist his family, as well as focusing on helping young girls to access an education. The conditions his family lives in are definitely very primitive, by standards in the United States. Since his family lives in a Conservation Area, they are not even allowed to grow vegetable gardens. So this makes it very difficult to feed the families.

Our guide is passionate about sponsoring more girls to get a secondary education so they have options to broaden their perspectives and gain new experiences. I struggled with whether or not to personally support them because who am I? What right do I have to impose my opinions and beliefs on anyone else, let alone a culture that has survived for centuries? But after further conversations, I learned that if given the choice and opportunity, many of the parents of this village desired their children, even their girls, to get an education…as long as they stayed in touch and supported their families, like our guide does. They see in him the benefits and advantages of getting an education.

This was a powerful example for me of how education can be beneficial to “accepting differences”. It was a huge benefit to our guide and now he is sharing that opportunity with others from his culture. If a mother can see how education may benefit her daughter, then I am open to supporting that desire. Not in a judgmental way, but in a supportive way.

So far, in this blog, I have talked about experience and education as being important elements in my journey of learning to “accept differences” as it relates to my own self-care. The third element that frequently comes up for me is expectation. That is in the context of what I “expect” of or from others.

I do not get upset if I do not have any expectations of another person. But when I do have expectations, then I often feel stress or anxiety if they are not meeting them. Then I have to consciously examine what that is about, what purpose it may be serving, and whether there is anything I can do about it? By noticing that I am swimming upstream and fighting the current energetically, plus mindfully considering these questions, it helps me determine if there is an action I am to take or if it is time to let it go. Letting go is often more difficult than taking action. I have to seriously consider how the stress or anxiety is affecting my health and wellbeing, as this directly correlates to my “self-care”.

Of course, the hardest aspects of expectations to deal with for me, is when I realize someone else has an expectation that I have not agreed to and may not be living up to. At such times, the only thing I have found I can do, in order to release that stress, is to learn to allow that person to be disappointed or upset. To acknowledge it is OK to let them have that experience, as that is their choice. Others might call this acknowledging what is “their stuff”, not mine. But it is still hard to let go of, especially for those of us who could be referred to as “people pleasers”.

Experience, education & expectations seem to be the 3-legged stool that have helped to support me in these past few weeks as I have been continuing this journey to “accept differences”. Of course, like the yoga or meditation that Balanced Rock incorporates into our programs, this is a daily practice. I am alert to it when I feel the tension or anxiety in my body, when I am struggling to move up stream, energetically.

When I take the time to examine what is going on in my spirit, mind and/or body, then I can consider the appropriate steps to address it, with the goal of shifting the energy to be more of consciously floating down stream. Only in this regular practice have I been learning to “accept differences” in order to be mindful of the impact on my own self-care.

Marcia Hodges
Balanced Rock Participant & Board Member

Intentions Springing Forth

Vernal Equinox is such a special transitional time for transformation and new growth! We have set our intentions, planting seeds in the fertile darkness of winter and perhaps we can celebrate their emergence and initial evolution. As we come to close the first quarter of the year we are reflecting on the intentions shared with us by the greater Balanced Rock community.

In our first e-newsletter of 2017 we asked the following:
We want to know what you intend to manifest in 2017!
Please write to us and we will compile our collective intentions in blog format to share with the community. By sharing our deepest hopes and dreams with each other we create the space for them to grow into reality!

Definition of Intention

  • a determination to act in a certain way : resolve
  • import, significance
  • what one intends to do or bring about : the object for which a prayer, mass, or pious act is offered
  • a process or manner of healing of wounds
  • a concept considered as the product of attention directed to an object of knowledge

In 2017 I intend to improve my health and and well being with a more holistic and healing approach. My intention is to eat a healthy diet, exercise more in the outdoors, get adequate sleep, and spend more time taking care of myself while also nurturing the one true love of my life.
Deana Barone

In 2017 I want to focus on daily study, discipline and follow through.
Heather Sullivan

Same as 2016 🙂
BRF Donor

My intention is to be the best mom I can be while also caring for myself, my relationship, and my environment. I might be able to word my intention better, or more clearly, or use more accurate descriptors, but I wanted to at least get out a rough draft … start with something instead of striving for perfection and therefore sending nothing!
Nicole Benter

My intention is to overcome my mom’s death and protect the vulnerable and downtrodden to honor her memory.
David Gregory

My intentions for 2017 are:
– To stand up for what is right, including the basic and civil rights of all humans
– To not only feel, think, and believe, but to act
– To advocate for any person who has less power and privilege than I have

Sarah Ottley

Eliza Kerr

In 2017 I want to honor my intuition more fully.
Paula Wild

All images: Patrick Bremser Photography

Savasana Integration

The following gems are from each of the 7 classes offered by our incredible line up of Balanced Rock instructors at the 2016 Yoga Jambalaya. This year’s event was gracefully facilitated by Eliza Kerr, Brenda Lear, Paula Wild, Heather Sullivan, Dennis Eagan and Jana Kilgore; sharing their wisdom and love of mindfulness practices. During our final bonus thirty minute Savasana, Heather Sullivan shared these aloud with the intention of helping us to fully integrate the deep messages of the day. 

Version 2



Remember our true nature as spirit


Practice again and again and again


Practice to Remember


Gayatri Mantra


Listen as deeply as you can


Doesn’t matter how far you bend your spine, it matters that you bend your spine


Feels totally delicious in our bodies


Love More Stress Less


Only place to go is inside and focus on breath


Practice so it is fun and easy


Digest Juicy Earthy


Hands in front of our hearts in Gratitude


Let all teaching settle into spots in the body


Rolling Aums


Represent our connection to source and everyone and everything


Nourished on every level


The eyes go where the mind follows


Dristi: Vision, point of view, intelligence, wisdom


All about relationship


Propioception: sense of your body in space


Let your vision follow your heart




The eye with which I see god is the same eye with which god sees me.


Amorphous love bubble


Four of the 12 cranial nerves are for vision alone


Relationship with planet


Prayer to sun, enlightening the world


Slow down


Om mata, om kali, durga devi namo namaha


Marvels of architectural engineering in the feet, 208 bones


If we slow down enough we can allow breath to lead


Listen as deeply and closely as you can


Gayatri Mantra


Recapped and shared in final class by Heather Sullivan & Paula Wild